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"Playing for All Kinds of Possibilities"

Playing for All Kinds of Possibilities

Buckets of Blickets: Children and Logic: A game developed by researchers at the University of California, Berkeley hopes to show how imaginative play in children may influence development of abstract thought.                                                                                                                                                                   By DAVID DOBBS   Published: April 22, 2013      When it comes to play, humans don’t play around.         

Alison Gopnik and the Gopnik Lab/University of California, Berkeley
Esther and Benny, both 5, played Blickets with Sophie Bridgers in a lab at the University of California, Berkeley. Children, lacking prior biases, excel in the game, based on associations, but adults flunk it.
Other species play, but none play for as much of their lives as humans do, or as imaginatively, or with as much protection from the family circle. Human children are unique in using play to explore hypothetical situations rather than to rehearse actual challenges they’ll face later. Kittens may pretend to be cats fighting, but they will not pretend to be children; children, by contrast, will readily pretend to be cats or kittens — and then to be Hannah Montana, followed by Spider-Man saving the day.
And in doing so, they develop some of humanity’s most consequential faculties. They learn the art, pleasure and power of hypothesis — of imagining new possibilities. And serious students of play believe that this helps make the species great.
The idea that play contributes to human success goes back at least a century. But in the last 25 years or so, researchers like Elizabeth S. Spelke, Brian Sutton-Smith, Jaak Panksepp and Alison Gopnik have developed this notion more richly and tied it more closely to both neuroscience and human evolution. They see play as essential not just to individual development, but to humanity’s unusual ability to inhabit, exploit and change the environment.
Dr. Gopnik, author of “The Scientist in the Crib” and “The Philosophical Baby,” and a professor of psychology at the University of California, Berkeley, has been studying the ways that children learn to assess their environment through play. Lately she has focused on the distinction between “exploring” new environments and “exploiting” them. When we’re quite young, we are more willing to explore, she finds; adults are more inclined to exploit.
To exploit, one leans heavily on lessons (and often unconscious rules) learned earlier — so-called prior biases. These biases are useful to adults because they save time and reduce error: By going to the restaurant you know is good, instead of the new place across town, you increase the chance that you’ll enjoy the evening.
Most adults are slow to set such biases aside; young children fling them away like bad fruit.
Dr. Gopnik shows this brilliantly with a game she invented with the psychologist David Sobel (her student, now a professor at Brown). In the game, which has the fetching name Blickets, players try to figure out what it is that makes an otherwise undistinguished clay figure a blicket. In some scenarios you can win even if you’re applying a prior bias. In others you can’t.
Last summer I joined Dr. Gopnik behind a wall of one-way glass to watch her lab manager, Sophie Bridgers, play the game with an extremely alert 5-year-old, Esther.
Seated at a child-size table, Esther leaned forward on her elbows to watch as Ms. Bridgers brought out a small bin of clay shapes and told her that some of them were blickets but most were not.
“You cannot tell which ones are blickets by looking at them. But the ones that are blickets have blicketness inside. And luckily,” Ms. Bridgers went on, holding up a box with a red plastic top, “I have my machine. Blicketness makes my machine turn on and play music.”
It’s a ruse, of course. The box responds not to the clay shapes but to a switch under the table controlled by Ms. Bridgers.
Now came the challenge. The game can be played by either of two rules, called “and” and “or.” The “or” version is easier: When a blicket is placed atop the machine, it will light the machine up whether placed there by itself or with other pieces. It is either a blicket or it isn’t; it doesn’t depend on the presence of any other object.
In the “and” trial, however, a blicket reveals its blicketness only if both it and another blicket are placed on the machine; and it will light up the box even if it and the other blicket are accompanied by a non-blicket. It can be harder than it sounds, and this is the game that Esther played.
First, Ms. Bridgers put each of three clay shapes on the box individually — rectangle, then triangle, then a bridge. None activated the machine. Then she put them on the box in three successive combinations.
1. Rectangle and triangle: No response.
2. Rectangle and bridge: Machine lighted up and played a tune!
3. Triangle and bridge: No response.
Ms. Bridgers then picked up each piece in turn and asked Esther whether it was a blicket. I had been indulging my adult (and journalistic) prior bias for recorded observation by filling several pages with notes and diagrams, and I started flipping frantically through my notebook.
I was still looking when Esther, having given maybe three seconds’ thought to the matter, correctly identified all three. The rectangle? “A blicket,” she said. Triangle? A shake of the head: No. Bridge? “A blicket.” A 5-year-old had instantly discerned a rule that I recognized only after Dr. Gopnik explained it to me.
Esther, along with most other 4- and 5-year-olds tested, bested not just me but most of 88 California undergraduates who took the “and” test. We educated grown-ups failed because our prior biases dictated that we play the game by the more common and efficient “or” rule.
“Or” rules apply far more often in actual life, when a thing’s essence seldom depends on another object’s presence. An arrow’s utility may depend on a bow, but its identity as an arrow does not. Since the “or” rule is more likely correct and simpler to use, I grabbed it and clung.
Esther, however, quickly ditched the “or” rule and hit upon the far less likely “and” rule. Such low-probability hypotheses often fail. But children, like adventurous scientists in a lab, will try these wild ideas anyway, because even if they fail, they often produce interesting results.
Esther and her twin brother, Benny (who played another version of the game), generated low-probability hypotheses as fast as I could breathe. “Maybe if you turn it over and put it on the other end!” “Let’s put all three on!” They were hypothesis machines. Their mother, Wendy Wolfson (who is a science writer), told me they’re like this all the time. “It’s like living with a pair of especially inquisitive otters.”
Alas, Dr. Gopnik said, this trait peaks around 4 or 5. After that, we gradually take less interest in seeing what happens and more in getting it right.
Yet this playlike spirit of speculation and exploration does stay with us, both as individuals and as a species. Studies suggest that free, self-directed play in safe environments enhances resilience, creativity, flexibility, social understanding, emotional and cognitive control, and resistance to stress, depression and anxiety. And we continue to explore as adults, even if not so freely. That’s how we got to the Internet, the moon, and Dr. Gopnik’s lab.
Finally, in the long game of evolution, Dr. Gopnik and some of her fellow scientists hypothesize that humans’ extended period of imaginative play, along with the traits it develops, has helped select for the big brain and rich neural networks that characterize Homo sapiens. This may strike you either as a low-probability or a high-probability hypothesis. But it certainly seems worth playing with.

"Frogs"

Children's Books

Frogs

‘999 Frogs Wake Up’ and ‘Frog Song’

From "999 Frogs Wake Up"
To speak of an insanely gorgeous book about frogs would seem to pose a contradiction in terms. To note two such books just seems silly.

999 FROGS WAKE UP

By Ken Kimura
Illustrated by Yasunari Murakami
48 pp. NorthSouth. $17.95. (Picture book; ages 4 to 8)

FROG SONG

By Brenda Z. Guiberson
Illustrated by Gennady Spirin
40 pp. Henry Holt & Company. $17.99. (Picture book; ages 4 to 8)

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From "Frog Song"
Yet here they are: “Frog Song,” the latest from Brenda Z. Guiberson and Gennady Spirin (“Life in the Boreal Forest”), and “999 Frogs Wake Up,” a sequel of sorts to 2011’s “999 Tadpoles,” by the Japanese team of Ken Kimura and Yasunari Murakami. Both are about frogs, and both are spectacularly illustrated. There the similarities end.
A sweet animal story for young readers, “999 Frogs Wake Up” is cartoonish and carefree and age-appropriately anthropomorphic. It’s springtime, and Mother Frog is the first to awaken. “Pop!” goes each of her 999 sons and daughters as they poke their heads from the ground. Last is Big Brother, the first in a parade of “sleepyheads” whom the rest decide to awaken in turn. First a turtle and then a lizard and then a crowd of ladybugs lounging under a rock.
As with its predecessor, which told the story of 999 baby frogs threatened by assorted predators as they tried to find a suitable abode for the whole family, the strong point of this book is its eye-popping design. Once again, a teeming multitude of primitive yet curiously expressive frogs are scattered on a stark white background to very pleasing effect. The text is simple, and includes many lines of unadorned dialogue:
The ladybugs began to wiggle and wake up.
“Spring is here!”
“I’m hungry!”
“Have the flowers blossomed yet?”
The last dozing, snoring sleepyhead is the hardest to stir. In a nod to “999 Tadpoles,” the little frogs rouse the slumbering reptile out of its bedtime cave with a “Heave-Ho!” until they realize the dormant tail belongs to a predatory snake. Yet – nothing scary here! – even this startling development is swiftly resolved before the frogs settle back into domestic bliss.
In “Frog Song,” by contrast, the swampy creatures are described in their intricate, full-color realistic glory – warts and all. Gennady Spirin has four times been the recipient of a New York Times Best Illustrated Children’s Books award, and his latest masterpiece of illustration is nothing less than a springtime reverie. Bursting with detail, especially in the opulent end pages, Spirin’s tableaus of blooming lily pads, laden with flowers and frogs, resemble 17-century Dutch still lifes in their awed contemplation of the natural world. Textures snap to life – glistening, sticky eggs on a midwife toad; the loamy banks of a river; the terrifying fuzziness of a frog-eating tarantula.
“Frogs have a song for trees, bogs, burrows and logs,” the text begins, introducing frogs and their varied voices. As in the call-and-response sequence from “The Old Mill,” a Disney Silly Symphony short from 1937, frogs are shown to be social, communicative creatures who beckon to one another across bogs and streams with calls and bellows far more wide-ranging than the old “croak” and “ribbit.”
“Frog Song” all but vibrates with the sounds of their voices. The strawberry poison dart frog of Costa Rica “trills a tiny tune in a pile of wet leaves. Pssst-pssst.” Meanwhile, in Borneo, “a four-lined tree frog whistles a song. Swee-Swee!” Tadpoles plop into water. An Australian desert frog sings mwaa-mwaa-mwaa as it breaks out of its underground cocoon to the plink-plunk-plink of rain. Each unique sound emerges from a frog convincingly unique in shape, coloration and habitat. The impression that emerges is one of extraordinary biodiversity begging to be appreciated and protected.

"When Bad Things Happen, Be a Helper"

When Bad Things Happen, Be a Helper

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For each issue of our Teaching Tolerance magazine, I write a "note from the director." In the last two notes I've grappled with the role educators play in the face of national tragedy, first the Sikh temple shooting in Wisconsin, then the school massacre in Newtown, Conn. Teaching Tolerance has also posted blogs offering advice on how to keep students safe, how to address their anxieties, how to sensitively deal with the unwelcome teachable moment.
When the new of the bombings at the end of the Boston Marathon began to break last Friday, I found myself at a loss. Do we keep saying the same thing? Repost what we've posted before? Bother trying to find a new way to help the grown ups give children a sense of security in an insecure world?
It turns out, though, that there was another way, and it came in the form of an old Mr. Rogers episode. It soon multiplied on Facebook and other online sites, with shares cascading throughout the weekend. Mr. Rogers simply said, when bad things happen, “look for the helpers.”
It's not just another way to talk about tragedy, either. I think we've grown as a nation as well. We're learning—sadly—to shake off the shock a little sooner, and set about doing something positive. We did it after Hurricane Sandy, and after Sandy Hook. In Boston, the news media looked at, and celebrated, those who ran toward the victims to help.
It's the same behavior we've encouraged in children who witness bullying: Get involved, speak out, stand up. Don't be a bystander, be an ally.
Look for the helpers. Be the helper.

"Video Games May Aid Children With Dyslexia"

Video Games May Aid Children With Dyslexia

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Playing action video games may improve reading in children with dyslexia, Italian researchers have found.
The small study, published online last week in Current Biology, involved two groups of 10 dyslexic children. One group played action video games for nine sessions of 80 minutes each, while the other followed the same routine with nonaction games. The researchers bought the games in retail stores and have no financial interest in any video game company.
Age, I.Q., reading speed, error rates and phonological skills were similar in the two groups at the beginning of the study. The researchers measured the attention and reading skills of the children before and after the game sessions and then compared them.
Those trained on the action games scored significantly higher than those who played the nonaction games by various measures: combined speed and accuracy, recognizing pseudo-words made of random letters, and reaction time. The action game players also scored higher on tests that measured attention by inserting distractions as the children tried to accomplish various visual and auditory tasks.
“The correlation between attention improvement and reading improvement was very high,” said the co-first author of the study, Simone Gori, a postdoctoral fellow at the University of Padua. “The change in attentional abilities translates into better reading ability.”

"A Presidential Pat for Young Scientists"

A Presidential Pat for Young Scientists

Stephen Crowley/The New York Times
The president helped Payton Karr, left, and Kiona Elliot of Oakland Park, Fla., with their bicycle-powered water filtration system.
Praising the work of young scientists and inventors at the third White House Science Fair, President Obama on Monday announced a broad plan to create and expand federal and private-sector initiatives designed to encourage children to study science, technology, engineering and mathematics.
After browsing the 30 or so projects on display in the White House’s public rooms and the East Garden, Mr. Obama said he was committed to giving students the resources they need to pursue education in the disciplines, collectively known as STEM. Earlier, the White House announced efforts aimed at increasing participation in those fields, particularly among female and minority students, as well as those from low-income and military families.
“This is not the time to gut investments that keep our businesses on the cutting edge, that keep our economy humming, that improve the quality of our lives,” Mr. Obama told an audience in the East Room that included 100 students from 40 states, business leaders and science-minded celebrities, among them Bill Nye, the television host and science educator, and LeVar Burton, who appeared in “Star Trek: The Next Generation.”
“This is the time to reach a level of research and development that we haven’t seen since the height of the space race,” he said.
According to a summary in his 2014 budget request, Mr. Obama has designated $180 million for programs to increase opportunities for participation in STEM programs, from kindergarten through graduate school, for groups historically underrepresented in those fields.
An additional $265 million would be directed to support networks of school districts, universities, science agencies, museums, businesses and other educational entities focused on STEM education, and to finance the creation of a corps of master teachers. Of that, $80 million would go toward furthering the president’s goal of adding 100,000 math and science teachers over a decade.
The White House is promoting the programs as part of an “all hands on deck” effort that includes an AmeriCorps program that places volunteers in STEM-focused nonprofit organizations; a summer camp for children to design and build projects; a corporate mentorship program; and the expansion of a program to increase access to Advanced Placement courses for students in military families.
In an effort to reach more low-income students, AmeriCorps plans to place 50 volunteers in For Inspiration and Recognition of Science and Technology, or First, a nonprofit organization that sponsors robotics competitions and technology challenges. Technology companies including SanDisk and Cisco have formed the US2020 mentoring campaign with the goal of having at least 20 percent of the firms’ employees spending at least 20 hours a year mentoring or teaching by 2020.
This summer, the Maker Education Initiative will host Makers Corps for students to design and build projects that are personally meaningful.
Among the projects on display at the White House were a cloud computing program that improves cancer detection; a fully functional prosthetic arm that costs only $250 to build; an emergency water sanitation system powered by a bicycle; video game designs, which were included at the fair for the first time; and a robot shaped like an Etch A Sketch that paints with watercolors.
Sylvia Todd, 11, a sixth-grader from Auburn, Calif., who built the robot, explained to Mr. Obama and, later, Interior Secretary Sally Jewell that her project had been inspired by similar robots displayed at an earlier competition.
“Everyone was using pens and pencils, and I just wanted to get really creative,” she said.
Afterward, Sylvia summed up her experience: “mind-boggling.”

"Social and Emotional Learning: Resources for Parents"

Social and Emotional Learning: Resources for Parents

There are many ways parents can encourage emotionally intelligent behavior in their children. Check out this guide to resources for learning more about character development.

Parents holding hands of child
Whether it's called "social and emotional learning" or "emotional intelligence," most people understand it's critical to pay attention to the development of the whole young person, including character education. Parents have a dual role to play in raising a self-aware, respectful child who knows how to manage his or her emotions, make responsible decisions, and resolve conflicts non-violently. At home, you should strive to create an environment of trust, respect, and support. Remember that modeling "emotionally intelligent" behavior at home is the first step in nurturing emotionally intelligent children. At school, you can work with other members of your school community to create a climate that supports social and emotional learning - in and out of the classroom.
Here are some specific steps you can take to nurture an emotionally intelligent child, and additional resources you can use to learn more about social and emotional learning.

Strategies At Home

Be a good listener. Joshua Freedman, Chief Operating Officer at Six Seconds, a nonprofit organization supporting emotional intelligence in families, schools, corporations, and communities, describes listening as a "core competency skill." Unfortunately, it's not always practiced by parents or children. For a list of strategies and activities for building listening skills, read Freedman's article on the subject, one of the many useful parenting resources at KidSource Online.
Model the behavior you seek. Whether it's apologizing when you're in the wrong or treating others with respect and kindness, children learn a great deal about relationships from observing the behavior of their parents. In the words of Maurice Elias, co-author of two books on emotionally intelligent parenting, parents should remember the "24K Golden Rule: We should always think about the impact of our actions on kids, and be as particular in what we do with our kids as we would want others to be with our kids." Check out an Edutopia interview with Elias about the role of social and emotional learning at home, as well as a video of him talking about why SEL should be an integral part of academic life. Elias is also a regular blogger for Edutopia on the topic of social and emotional learning.
Nurture your child's self-esteem. A child with a good sense of self is happier, more well-adjusted, and does better in school. Strategies for fostering self-esteem include giving your child responsibilities, allowing her to make age-appropriate choices, and showing your appreciation for a job well done.
Respect differences. Every child has his or her own unique talents and abilities. Whether in academics, athletics, or interpersonal relationships, resist the urge to compare your child to friends or siblings. Instead, honor your child's accomplishments and provide support and encouragement for the inevitable challenges he faces.
Take advantage of support services. Seek the advice and support of school counselors or other social services during times of family crisis, such as a divorce or the death of a close friend or family member. Remember that no matter how close you are to your child, she may be more comfortable discussing a troubling family situation with another trusted adult.

Strategies At School

Investigate your school's efforts to support social and emotional learning. Keep in mind that programs take on many forms and are called by many different names, including character education, leadership, conflict resolution, or peer mediation. Author Elias has identified four ideal components of a school's social emotional learning program: a specific program to support social-emotional learning, problem-prevention and health promotion activities, support services to address transitions, crises, and conflicts, and a commitment to community service. Ask your child, his teacher, and your school principal about activities and programs in each of these key areas.
Organize guest speakers. Work with your school's parent organization to identify experts within your community who can speak to parents and teachers about strategies for nurturing emotionally intelligent children.
Get involved. Consider volunteering for a school or school district committee responsible for overseeing the implementation of programs to support social and emotional learning. Note: At a district level, these programs are often (though not always) part of a safety or violence prevention department.
Celebrate diversity. Work with other parents and school staff to organize programs and events to celebrate and honor the many cultures in your school community.
Begin the discussion. If your school does not have any programs around social and emotional learning, work with others in your school and larger community to create what Linda Lantieri, co-founder of the Resolving Conflict Creatively Program, director of The Inner Resilience Program, and a consultant for the Collaborative for Academic, Social, and Emotional Learning calls a "web of support." Bring together leaders from throughout your community -- businesspeople and law enforcement, parents and educators -- to discuss ways in which your community can make the emotional health and wellness of children a priority.

Additional Resources to Learn More

Collaborative for Academic, Social, and Emotional Learning (CASEL): Tools for Families. This comprehensive resource page on CASEL’s website offers specific tips for what parents can do to support social and emotional learning at home as well as a downloadable SEL parent packet. Available in both English and Spanish, the packet includes background information about SEL, interviews with parents, and lists of SEL books, organizations, and programs.
Center on the Social and Emotional Foundations for Early Learning (CSEFEL): Family Tools. This collaborative project based at Vanderbilt University offers a series of guides for parents of young children on how to help their child identify his or her emotions, build relationships, communicate effectively, and much more.
Edutopia’s Parent Primer on Social and Emotional Learning and SEL reading list, inspired by CARE for Kids, a program in Jefferson County, Kentucky, features background information about SEL as well books, tips, and resources specific to parents.
The Center for Social and Character Development at Rutgers University features a parent resource page full of links to newsletters, publications, activities, multimedia presentations, and nonprofit organizations that have conducted in-depth research on social and emotional learning.
The EQ for Families curriculum provides a toolkit for putting on four workshops for parents and caregivers to create more emotionally intelligent families. You’ll find the toolkit, as well as many other useful EI resources, at the Six Seconds website.
Parent Effectiveness Training: The Proven Program for Raising Responsible Children, by Thomas Gordon, offers time-tested lessons and strategies. You'll find information about this book and other useful resources at the Gordon Training International website.
Building Emotional Intelligence: Techniques to Cultivate Inner Strength in Children (Sounds True, Inc.: 2008). Social and emotional learning expert Linda Lantieri and Collaborative for Academic, Social, and Emotional Learning (CASEL) co-founder Daniel Goleman combine forces in this step-by-step guide to helping children calm their minds and bodies as well as manage their emotions. The guide is accompanied by an audio CD of practices led by Daniel Goleman.
Emotionally Intelligent Parenting: How to raise a self-disciplined, responsible, socially skilled child (Three Rivers Press: 1999), and Raising Emotionally Intelligent Teenagers: Parenting with love, laughter, and limits (Harmony Books: 2000), are two excellent books by Maurice Elias, Steven E. Tobias, and Brian S. Friedlander.

"Building Numerical Literacy in the Very Young"

Building Numerical Literacy in the Very Young

My children adore tablets and they’re now so accustomed to touch screens that their fingerprints can be seen on my TV set when they forget it doesn’t work that way. But my wife and I are careful about the apps they can use. Although we’ve installed a few that are purely games, there are many inspiring educational apps that are just as much fun. Their numeracy skills have definitely been helped by the counting and math apps.
Simple large graphics are used in Toddler Counting 123.
Kids Numbers and Math
Operation Math for the iPad, in which the player, as a secret agent, must solve a number puzzle.
Basic counting apps are one way to interest the children in numbers and math. Toddler Counting 123 ($1 on iOS) is a good one for adults to use alongside very young children.
The app is simple and well executed with straightforward menus and good graphics. Its voice asks children how many squares, saxophones and so on they can see on the screen. When the child taps each item, its count is read aloud, and they even get a congratulatory message when they’ve tapped them all. It’s cute, and there’s the option to switch to a language like Spanish or French for extra fun. But the app counts only to 20, which is a bit of a shame.
Kids Maths, a $1 Android app, has a similar counting feature. It displays cute graphics, like a cartoon drawing of four lions, and then reads out the number of items.
Under another option, the app asks youngsters to count how many items they’ve seen, offering the answer in a short list of possible numbers. The app counts only to 10 and there are no settings, but it’s well designed and free of Android quirks like in-app advertisements or awkward menus.
Kids Numbers and Math ($1 on iOS and $3 on Android) is for slightly older children because after counting and numbers, the next numeracy challenge is basic arithmetic. This app teaches basic numbers as well as topics like addition, subtraction, maximums and minimums. It’s simple to use with big areas on the screen for little fingers to tap along, and clear menu items so adults can control the app and adjust its difficulty settings.
One of the more challenging puzzles is to tap on the biggest number of the three shown on floating balloon graphics. The app has well-drawn cartoon images and clear audio along with amusing extras to keep young minds interested. Shaking your device will cause different things to happen inside each part of the app, like making apples fall from a tree. The app also has advanced puzzles, which include numbers above 100, for an extra challenge.
Ninja Math, a $2 Android app, combines learning math with a physics-based puzzle so it’s suitable for older children who need to review their numeracy. The app poses arithmetic questions, with different possible answers written on a gong. You have to touch the screen to maneuver a little cartoon ninja figure across rotating bamboo poles and other obstacles so he hits the gong bearing the right answer.
The puzzle aspect of this game may keep youngsters amused — and it’s a game older ones can play alone. But this is all there is. The app’s so simple it may become boring before long, despite the increasing difficulty of the physics puzzles.
A similar gamelike app is the $3 iPad app Operation Math. It’s more complex than Ninja Math and it has a secret agent theme. A James Bond-like cartoon character has to type in answers on a smart wristwatch to crack enemy codes. The app has a basic story line about beating the evil “Dr. Odd,” and there are lots of different missions of varying difficulty in terms of the number of puzzles to solve in a given time.
The simpler missions, for example, have only a few code doors to break through and involve only simple addition or subtraction puzzles. The more complex missions require fast mental arithmetic and can include multiplication and division functions.
A player who solves enough missions is rewarded with new outfits for the secret agent and different watch designs. This app is definitely fun, though it’s a shame that the only secret agent character is male.
Thanks to its game features, adults may find Operation Math a great way to brush up on their own skills — it’s just complex enough to make it fun. But if you, or your oldest children, want a real challenge, then Sakura Quick Math ($2 on iOS) is excellent. Its puzzles are more complex and you have to solve them against the clock by writing the answer on the screen. Sadly, it doesn’t have more complex functions like powers or fractions, but it’s attractive and enjoyable.

"Brave Girls"

Brave Girls

‘The Girl With a Brave Heart’ and ‘The Longest Night’

From "The Girl With a Brave Heart"
Books about girl power are easy to find in March, National Women’s History Month, though not all of them feel timeless or universal. Two new picture books, both with origins in Israel, tell stories about young girls whose bravery and endurance reap great rewards, in ways that transcend the specific circumstance of a people and place.

THE GIRL WITH A BRAVE HEART

A Tale From Tehran
By Rita Jahanforuz
Illustrated by Vali Mintzi
40 pp. Barefoot Books. Cloth, $16.99. Paper, $7.99. (Picture book; ages 4 to 10)

THE LONGEST NIGHT

A Passover Story
By Laurel Snyder
Illustrated by Catia Chien
40 pp. Schwartz & Wade Books. $17.99. (Picture book; ages 4 to 8)

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From "The Longest Night"
“The Girl With a Brave Heart,” by Rita Jahanforuz, an Iranian-born popular singer raised in Israel, tells the story of a young motherless girl, Shiraz. When her father dies, Shiraz is left Cinderella-like in the clutches of an inconstant stepmother. “Without your father bringing home money every week, we cannot afford a maid,” the stepmother informs little Shiraz — and we all know what that means.
The book, originally published in Hebrew, tells a story that feels as if it’s been told forever. When a ball of her wool blows away and lands in a neighbor’s courtyard, Shiraz sets off to retrieve it. She encounters the garden’s owner, an old, mysterious woman. Wildly disheveled, the woman proceeds to give Shiraz a set of counterintuitive tasks: “I want you to smash all the dishes, and the draining board and the sink,” she instructs the child, who ignores her demands. Instead the girl cleans the kitchen and is rewarded for her disobedience with the gift of beauty.
When Shiraz returns home with her story, the stepmother insists that her own child follow Shiraz’s footsteps and be duly recognized. Of course, nothing of the sort happens, and readers learn that responding to another person sometimes requires psychological acuity and charitable interpretation. The old woman rewards Shiraz’s stepsister, who acts on command and out of self-interest, obeying the old woman’s commands to the letter, in kind. The second child returns home unrecognizably ugly.
If this all sounds familiar, there’s a reason. “The Girl With a Brave Heart” is really a psychologically driven tweak on the old Grimms’ fairy tale, “Mother Holle.” In the old German version, the good girl is rewarded for her humility and industry with a treasure of gold, while the lazy, ungracious child is sent back to her mother covered in pitch. According to Jahanforuz, her own book was inspired by a story her mother told her when she was growing up in Tehran; the two stories’ origins in the oral tradition certainly seem to overlap.
“The Girl With a Brave Heart” is strikingly enhanced by Vali Mintzi’s exquisite naïf illustrations, which seem a happy meeting of Gauguin and mid-career Matisse. Even during its darker moments, the figures shimmer in a sunny, spicy landscape of tangerine, cinnamon and teal. Taken altogether, the book is a heartwarming vindication of good-heartedness, something that doesn’t always get celebrated in a girlhood culture of snark.
It’s another era, another forced laborer  —  in this instance, an actual slave — and yet “The Longest Night,” a captivating Passover story by Laurel Snyder (“Bigger Than a Breadbox,” “Penny Dreadful”), also centers on the themes of just rewards and just deserts. In poetic couplets, a Jewish girl narrates her experience in ancient Egypt. “In the heat and blowing sand,/Each gray dawn my work began.” A wistful, dreamy child, she’d like to fly away like a dove or be visited by the moon.
What follows is a child’s-eye view of the 10 plagues portion of the Passover Seder story, culminating in the Jews’ exodus from Egypt. Not all the images are pleasant, thanks to the subject matter (a wolf with bared teeth, Egyptians covered in boils and blisters), and some may scare the younger ones (who would otherwise be playing with parsley and salt water by now). But for curious children searching for context and immediacy, the story – full of tense action that gains momentum as the pages turn — is pitched just right. Catia Chien’s forceful, textured paintings beautifully evoke the dusty sandscape and drench the final happy homecoming in rich, hopeful sunlight.

"A Child's Video Tour of Her Family's Garden"

A Child’s Video Tour of Her Family’s Garden

An enduring question these days is how to engage children with nature given how much time they spend looking at screens of one size or another.  I’ve written off and on about the merits of hybrid experience, …
…in which children and young adults get out in the wet, wriggling, fluttering world — whether a wilderness or Thoreau’s “swamp on the edge of town” — and then use the Web for that deeply human practice of communicating the things that catch our attention.
Here’s a fresh example, a tour of the early-spring sights in a Bryn Mawr, Pa., backyard garden by Eden Jane McCloskey, age five:

The video came my way via Eden’s mom, Jenny Parker McCloskey, a Twitter acquaintance. In an e-mail exchange, McCloskey described the genesis of the video this way:
Yesterday I handed my iPhone to my five-year-old to play with while I prepped dinner. Much to my surprise, she created her own nature documentary of our back yard. (I assumed she was playing Angry Birds!)
Of course, the first thing I thought of was your post on this very topic.
I felt bad about using the iPhone to get her to leave me alone for a few minutes. I don’t anymore.
My favorite moments are Eden’s discussion of “prickly flowers” (roses) and this description:
These are berries that birds eat. They’re poisonous for humans but not poisonous for birds.
Go, Eden!

"From the Brilliant Report: A Surprising Way to Improve Executive Function"

From The Brilliant Report: A Surprising Way To Improve Executive Function

Chances are you’ve recently heard or read about the importance of “executive function”—the set of higher-order mental skills that allow us to plan and organize, make considered decisions, manage our time and focus our attention. (The famous “marshmallow experiment” was all about executive function.) No matter how smart or talented we—or our kids or our employees—are, not much will get done well without these key capacities.
The problem is that researchers don’t yet know much about how to strengthen executive functioning. A review from cognitive scientist Daniel Willingham reports that certain parental behaviors—”meaningful praise, affection, sensitivity to the child’s needs, and encouragement,” along with intellectual stimulation, support for autonomy, and well-structured and consistent rules—can help kids develop robust executive function skills over the long run. Shorter-term interventions, such as the school-based program Tools of the Mind, have shown mixed or disappointing results, and computerized “brain training” exercises have generally failed to show that improvements in executive function produced by such exercises transfer to real-life tasks.
There is one surprising but well-supported way to improve executive function in both children and adults, however: aerobic exercise. A just-published review of the relevant research, appearing in the journal Psychonomic Bulletin and Review, concludes that “ample evidence indicates that regular engagement in aerobic exercise can provide a simple means for healthy people to optimize a range of executive functions.” Drawing on that article, here are some of the benefits of exercise for executive function, as found in three different populations:
School-aged children. Studies of kids have found that regular aerobic exercise can expand their working memory—the capacity that allows us to mentally manipulate facts and ideas to solve problems—as well as improve their selective attention and their ability to inhibit disruptive impulses. Regular exercise and overall physical fitness have been linked to academic achievement, as well as to success on specific tasks like safely crossing a busy street while talking on a cell phone (note to concerned readers: the street in the experiment was virtual).
Young adults. Executive functioning reaches its peak levels in young adults, and yet it can be improved still further with aerobic exercise. Studies on young adults find that those who exercise regularly post quicker reaction times, give more accurate responses, and are more effective at detecting errors when they engage in fast-paced tasks in the lab.
Older adults. Research on older adults has found that regular aerobic exercise can boost the executive functions that typically deteriorate with age, including the ability to pay focused attention, to switch among tasks, and to hold multiple items in working memory. One such study assigned older adults to three one-hour sessions of exercise a week for six months, scanning participants’ brains before and after the six-month period; the scans showed “significant increases in gray and white matter volumes” in areas of the brain associated with executive control. (A group of older adults who engaged in strength and flexibility training for the same six months showed no such brain growth.)

"'When Stravinsky Met Nijinsky'"

‘The Rite of Spring’

‘When Stravinsky Met Nijinsky,’ by Lauren Stringer

From "When Stravinsky Met Nijinsky"
It’s not surprising that Disney set a battle between a stegosaurus and a Tyrannosaurus rex to a soundtrack of Stravinsky’s “Rite of Spring” in the 1940 film “Fantasia.” For most children, that’s what the music is about. But few are probably aware that when the ballet made its debut at the Théâtre des Champs-Élysées in 1913, a near riot broke out in the audience.

WHEN STRAVINSKY MET NIJINSKY

Two Artists, Their Ballet, and One Extraordinary Riot
Written and illustrated by Lauren Stringer
32 pp. Houghton Mifflin Harcourt. $16.99. (Picture book; ages 4 to 8)
From "When Stravinsky Met Nijinsky"
What child wouldn’t want to read about that? “When Stravinsky Met Nijinsky,” written and illustrated by Lauren Stringer (“Winter Is the Warmest Season,” “Fold Me a Poem”) reveals the origins of that disconcerting music and the reasons it caused such a fuss. It’s a story worth telling. With music education programs evaporating from classrooms across the country, picture books have had to assume the baton. A great number have been written about composers and musicians, and even about individual pieces of music. But not many look closely at the art of musical collaboration, and Stringer does that here with imaginative spark and dynamism.
In Stringer’s telling, the story is about the meeting of two very different minds. Two solitary artists, Igor Stravinsky and Vaslav Nijinksy, happen separately upon plans to do something unexpected and unique. When they meet, the composer and choreographer are able to make the leap together, building on their shared Russian heritage. “When Nijinsky composed dances all by himself, his torso floated — a swan. His legs leaped — a deer! And his feet, like a sparrow, tippy-tip-toed, while his arms curved and swerved like a snake. But he dreamed of making something different and new.”
That’s just what he and Stravinsky did. Taking “Russian folk dances and Russian folk songs, they squared them and flattened them, twisted and cubed them,” Stringer writes as her accompanying acrylics take a Cubist turn, reflecting what Braque and Picasso were showing around the same time. On opening night, the orchestral ballet, with its loud dissonance and stomping dancers, brought cries of outrage from the audience: “They’re not dancing the way dancers should dance!” “They’re not making music the way orchestras should!”
Stringer takes some liberties with the facts. But the effect is to streamline a more complex tale into a coherent story that will make sense to readers (who, even if they respond to arguments, probably wouldn’t be as fascinated by the actual behind-the-scenes between Stravinsky and Sergei Diaghilev). For young children, the meeting of two artistic sensibilities is aptly captured by an image on the final spread of Stravinsky and Nijinksy hooting over the “ruckus” they made, with a cat and dog cavorting gleefully onstage behind them.
Stringer is primarily an illustrator, and a very good one. Animated spreads of composer and choreographer, dancer and musician, form an enchanting illustration of music composition. Pages of notation spring to life with swirls of color and movement. Russian dancers gesture and leap and clap their hands, feet poised on drums. Avant-garde-friendly audience members throw back their heads exultantly upon hearing the debut. “They threw hats and hairpins, gloves and boots; they pounded their fists and stamped their feet.”
It’s enough to make readers want to put down the book and turn on the music. Who doesn’t like the sound of that?

"Special or Not? Teach Kids to Figure It Out"

Special or Not? Teach Kids To Figure It Out

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By now you’ve probably heard about the “you’re not special” speech, when English teacher David McCullough told graduating seniors at Wellesley High School: “Do not get the idea you’re anything special. Because you’re not.” Mothers and fathers present at the ceremony — and a whole lot of other parents across the Internet — took issue with McCullough’s ego-puncturing words. But lost in the uproar was something we really should be taking to heart: our young people actually have no idea whether they’re particularly talented or accomplished or not. In our eagerness to elevate their self-esteem, we forgot to teach them how to realistically assess their own abilities, a crucial requirement for getting better at anything from math to music to sports. In fact, accurate self-evaluation is a skill the rest of us could stand to acquire, too. It’s not just privileged high-school students: we all tend to view ourselves as above average.
(MORE: Should We Stop Telling Our Kids They’re Special?)
Such inflated self-judgments have been found in study after study, and it’s often exactly when we’re least competent at a given task that we rate our performance most generously. In a 2006 study published in the journal Medical Education, for example, medical students who scored the lowest on an essay test were the most charitable in their self-evaluations, while high-scoring students judged themselves much more stringently. Poor students, the authors note, “lack insight” into their own inadequacy. Why should this be? Another study, led by Cornell University psychologist David Dunning, offers an enlightening explanation. People who are incompetent, he writes with coauthor Justin Kruger, suffer from a “dual burden”: they’re not good at what they do, and their very ineptness prevents them from recognizing how bad they are.
In Dunning and Kruger’s study, subjects scoring at the bottom of the heap on tests of logic, grammar and humor “grossly overestimated” their talents. Although their test scores put them in the 12th percentile, they guessed they were in the 62nd. What these individuals lacked (in addition to clear logic, proper grammar and a sense of humor) was “metacognitive skill”: the capacity to monitor how well they’re performing. In the absence of that capacity, the subjects arrived at an overly rosy view of their own abilities. There’s a paradox here, the authors note: “The skills that engender competence in a particular domain are often the very same skills necessary to evaluate competence in that domain.” In other words, to get better at judging how well we’re doing at an activity, we have to get better at the activity itself.
(MORE: Why Floundering Is Good)
There are a couple of ways out of this double bind. First, we can learn to make honest comparisons with others. Train yourself to recognize excellence, even when you don’t yourself possess it, and compare what you can do against what truly excellent individuals are able to accomplish. Second, seek out feedback that is frequent, accurate and specific. Find a critic who will tell you not only how poorly you’re doing, but just what it is you’re doing wrong. As Dunning and Kruger note, success indicates to us that everything went right, but failure is more ambiguous: any number of things could have gone wrong. Use this external feedback to figure out exactly where and when you screwed up.
If we adopt these strategies — and most importantly, teach them to our children — they won’t need parents, or a commencement speaker, to tell them that they’re special. They’ll already know that they are, or have a plan to get that way.

Read more: http://ideas.time.com/2012/06/20/special-or-not-teach-kids-to-figure-it-out/#ixzz2Q5LJnB67

"Fairy Tales with a Twist"

Fairy Tales with a Twist
As the classics are reimagined for movies and TV, books keep pace with clever updates.
Quick: What's got more bite than vampires, is more terrifying than zombies, and more soul-shredding than paranormal romance? It's -- drum roll, please -- fairy tales?
Yup, in TV shows, movies, and books, writers are drawing on age-old fairy tales for inspiration. Take these examples:
Fairy tales make enduring source material because of their universal truths, the clear embodiment of good and evil, and the ability to try our darkest instincts and deepest fears on for size.  But some kids and teens are encountering these stories for the first time in explosion-filled effects extravaganzas. That’s a scary thought.
The recent film Hansel and Gretel: Witch Hunters transforms the siblings from innocent victims to heavily armed avengers. And as the tagline of the action-packed trailer for the forthcoming Jack the Giant Slayer, an update of "Jack and the Beanstalk," says, "If you think you know the story, you don't know Jack."
Fortunately, there's a way for kids and teens to explore fairy tales without the CGI graphics. The trend is equally strong in books. Some authors do more than update the classics -- they put their protagonists in contact -- or cahoots -- with familiar fairy tale characters. Here are some of our favorites:
  • The Land of Stories: The Wishing Spell, by Glee star Chris Colfer (age 8+)
    A modern-day brother and sister fall into the fairy tale world and meet characters from "Goldilocks and the Three Bears," "Cinderella," and "Snow White" on their quest to get back to our world.
  • The Hero's Guide to Saving Your Kingdom, by Christopher Healy (age 8+)
    Prince Charmings from "Cinderella," "Rapunzel," "Sleeping Beauty," and "Snow White" band together to rescue runaway Cinderella.
  • A Tale Dark and Grimm and its sequel, In a Glass Grimmly, by Adam Gidwitz (age 10+)
    The former is based on "Hansel and Gretel," the latter inspired by "Jack and Jill." The author/narrator injects himself periodically to warn readers when things are about to get "strange, bloody, and horrible."
  • The Lunar Chronicles, by Marissa Meyer (age 13+)
    Sci-fi and fairy tales mix in this YA series that began with 2012's Cinder, featuring a cyborg Cinderella (age 12+), and continues with the just-released Scarlet, starring a futuristic Little Red Riding Hood who's looking for her grandma while dodging half-man/half wolf villains.
  • Bewitching: The Kendra Chronicles, Book 2, by Alex Flinn (age 13+)
    In this clever twist on "Cinderella," our witchy heroine contends with modern-day stepsisters and also runs into a familiar witch who bakes children who try to eat her gingerbread house.

"Taming the Online Monster, Part 2"

Taming the Online Monster, Part 2

Tips for making sure children don't waste too much time playing games and watching shows online.
Lars Leetaru
It’s been about three months since we began confronting the electronic elephant in our living room: the huge amount of time our girls spend online, captivated by games, shows and web surfing. After much brainstorming, we settled on a grade-based solution, which I wrote about last month, ultimately letting the girls’ performance in school decide how much freedom they’d have in using computers.
I can’t say that we’ve completely solved the problem. In fact, our confrontations over this have turned a peaceful home into a bit of a battleground. One child initially lost unsupervised use of her laptop in her room and has since lost use of her laptop altogether and now must queue up with the other girls for use of the main family computer.
But on the positive side, not only are we talking about a problem everyone seemed happier ignoring, we’re also pushing each other to solve it and planning some even more ambitious experiments.
Here are a few things we’ve learned—from our own experience so far and from readers—which may help others trying to get their arms around this problem.
Don’t be oblivious: Parents need to be in a position to understand how much time is being sucked away from their children. That may simply mean being home more often and in a position to monitor when the child is in front of the device. Or it may mean doing an occasional audit through the browser history or Netflix viewing log (which may alarm you as much as ours did me—we ended up canceling our subscription).
Frank Seldin, a reader in Dutchess County in New York, says he warns friends not to get their children tablets because they’ll lose control. “When the girls play videogames, it is on my wife’s and my iPad/Fire, and we know exactly what is on it and what they are playing,” he says. “All computer use is in the kitchen (where homework is done as well), and it will stay that way.”
Find individualized solutions: Every child is so different. My kids are at different levels academically, different ages, and have varying amounts of maturity around the concept of self-monitoring. You don’t have to solve this for all time. Instead, you want to stay tuned in to where your child is and what motivates him or her.
Insist on clearer communication: I’ve learned it’s first a process of educating the child about which activities constitute work and which are better defined as play. That distinction may not always be obvious to them as online chats about homework turn into silliness and become a big time waster.
As I suggested in my original column, the best way to minimize nagging is when a child learns to send very clear signals about where he or she is in the continuum of work and play. My kids now say to me, “Mom, I’m going to take a half-hour break because I’ve been working for the past two hours on homework.” That kind of communication on the child’s part makes all the difference.
Another reader, Bob Larson of Folsom, Calif., insists on honesty from his kids. “If we catch them abusing any of these privileges, they automatically are banned from all electronics for 2 to 4 weeks depending on the severity,” he says. “We have had some of our kids banned for 6 months when they told blatant lies to our faces when they were old enough to know better.”
Give kids a chance to earn autonomy: This may be the grade-oriented solution we found, or, as suggested by Brian Verhaaren, a reader in Salt Lake City, Utah, it could mean letting your children actually pay the cost for their computer devices, their game memberships, their Netflix subscription. Ultimately, you want kids to be able to police themselves.
Consider a router “kill switch”: This solution comes from an online commenter, who literally is remodeling her home to put a router kill switch in the master bedroom. You don’t have to take that drastic a measure, but there are easy ways to get devices powered down at bedtime, including parental-control settings on PCs and Macs, and simply taking the router power cable to bed with you.
Own the problem: What kind of example are you setting? How much time do you spend with your own nose to a screen at home? Mine has been excessive—I’m always finishing work or catching up on personal email or doing computer-intensive school volunteer work. Lately, as we’ve been pushing the girls to shift their own gears, they’re pushing me, asking me to read aloud or snuggle or play a game. I sometimes have to say no, but I say yes whenever possible, so grateful that they’re asking.
A few weekends ago Emily, 14, suggested to me that we have a computer-free day. I was so refreshed that the idea came from her, I hugged her. It wasn’t possible because of another daughter’s homework load, but it got us thinking about spring break, and even more time in digital detox this summer.

"Anxiety Attack: Conquering the Fear of Math"

Anxiety Attack: Conquering the Fear of Math

Beth Fertig

March 7, 2013, 11:44 a.m.
Last year we met a 7-year-old girl we’ll call Zoey. A shy second grader who excelled at reading, Zoey’s parents and teachers were concerned about Zoey’s poor performance in math and her reluctance to do her math homework. What intrigued us was a passing comment mom made during the intake interview: Zoey frequently complained of stomachaches during school, landing her in the nurse’s office almost daily. The nurse could never find a reason for Zoey’s pains, and after a quick check-up would send a happy Zoey back to class.
What the teachers and nurse missed was that Zoey’s pains were getting her out of math class; nobody at the school considered Zoey might be experiencing math anxiety.
Common wisdom is that math anxiety doesn’t affect children before sixth grade. On the contrary, our research demonstrates that children as young as first grade report math anxiety symptoms. Worse, this math anxiety affects their ability to learn math. Sadly, Zoey’s story isn’t unique.
Math anxiety refers to feelings of tension and fear that interfere with solving mathematical problems in everyday life and school settings. Math anxiety involves physiological arousal (e.g., sweaty palms, racing heart), negative thoughts (e.g., “I am just not a math person.”), escape and/or avoidance behaviors (e.g., developing pains to get out of math class), and, when the individual cannot escape the situation, poor performance. Sound like Zoey? Yes, and between 66-90% of Americans, some reports say.
The negative impacts of math anxiety are enormous. Math-anxious students do not see the value of math for everyday life, they participate — and learn — less in math classes, receive lower grades in math, and take fewer math classes in high school and college. These patterns are especially troubling given that mathematical proficiency is becoming increasingly important for full economic opportunity and meaningful participation in society. Consider that only one-third of high school seniors in the U.S. have the mathematical proficiency to compete in a global market and respond to global challenges.
Where are we going wrong?
There are lots of different pathways to math anxiety. A growing body of research suggests that parents and teachers might transmit their own math anxiety to children. At home, comments such as, “I was a terrible math student, it’s in our genes” send the signal that it isn’t important to do well in math. In the classroom, math anxiety has been linked to teachers who are hostile, hold gender biases, are indifferent, or who embarrass students in front of peers.
More important, in our opinion, is the role we collectively play as a society. Let’s face it: it is socially acceptable to say you are bad at math whereas there is a social stigma attached to having poor literacy skills. Kids are consistently bombarded with messages that math is something to fear. T-shirts proudly announce, “Allergic to Algebra” or “I’m too pretty for math.” Even Barbie had something to say about math being tough. This is simply not okay. There is no reason kids should be any more anxious about math than other academic subjects.
So what do we do about math anxiety? First and foremost we have got to stop sending messages to our young children — especially our girls — that math is something to fear. Humans are actually hardwired to think mathematically; we are born with basic building blocks to do math. We need stronger teacher preparation programs that focus on building mathematically competent and confident teachers. We need to provide better supports to our teachers and school leaders to prevent and reduce math anxiety from taking root. We also need to better integrate math into every day routines. Just as we encourage teachers and parents to read with kids, math activities need to become daily habits. Board games, playing cards, and dominoes all have potential for enhancing mathematical thinking.
What do we do about kids who already have math anxiety? Children (and adults!) first need to recognize the signs of math anxiety: the sweaty palms, the racing heart, the negative thoughts. Then, kids need techniques to conquer their anxiety in real-time.
Common strategies include relaxation techniques (e.g., breathing exercises or guided imagery) and positive self-talk (e.g., “I can do math.” “I can take my time and find the correct answer.”)
A special note to teachers: Remember that kids with math anxiety — like all struggling math learners — are going to need lots of reassurance and more time and support than their peers to develop good math habits, skills, and strategies. Be patient! With the right supports and attitudes, we can teach our children to love and excel at math. We all have a role to play in turning math into the one four-letter word children use loudly and proudly.

"The Child, the Tablet, and the Developing Mind"

The Child, the Tablet and the Developing Mind

Spending time with devices instead of interacting with people may hinder communication skills, researchers say.Feng Li/Getty Images Spending time with devices instead of interacting with people may hinder communication skills, researchers say.

I recently watched my sister perform an act of magic.
We were sitting in a restaurant, trying to have a conversation, but her children, 4-year-old Willow and 7-year-old Luca, would not stop fighting. The arguments — over a fork, or who had more water in a glass — were unrelenting.
Like a magician quieting a group of children by pulling a rabbit out of a hat, my sister reached into her purse and produced two shiny Apple iPads, handing one to each child. Suddenly, the two were quiet. Eerily so. They sat playing games and watching videos, and we continued with our conversation.
After our meal, as we stuffed the iPads back into their magic storage bag, my sister felt slightly guilty.
“I don’t want to give them the iPads at the dinner table, but if it keeps them occupied for an hour so we can eat in peace, and more importantly not disturb other people in the restaurant, I often just hand it over,” she told me. Then she asked: “Do you think it’s bad for them? I do worry that it is setting them up to think it’s O.K. to use electronics at the dinner table in the future.”
I did not have an answer, and although some people might have opinions, no one has a true scientific understanding of what the future might hold for a generation raised on portable screens.
“We really don’t know the full neurological effects of these technologies yet,” said Dr. Gary Small, director of the Longevity Center at the University of California, Los Angeles, and author of “iBrain: Surviving the Technological Alteration of the Modern Mind.” “Children, like adults, vary quite a lot, and some are more sensitive than others to an abundance of screen time.”
But Dr. Small says we do know that the brain is highly sensitive to stimuli, like iPads and smartphone screens, and if people spend too much time with one technology, and less time interacting with people like parents at the dinner table, that could hinder the development of certain communications skills.
So will a child who plays with crayons at dinner rather than a coloring application on an iPad be a more socialized person?
Ozlem Ayduk, an associate professor in the Relationships and Social Cognition Lab at the University of California, Berkeley, said children sitting at the dinner table with a print book or crayons were not as engaged with the people around them, either. “There are value-based lessons for children to talk to the people during a meal,” she said. “It’s not so much about the iPad versus nonelectronics.”
Parents who have little choice but to hand over their iPad can at least control what a child does on those devices.
A report published last week by the Millennium Cohort Study, a long-term study group in Britain that has been following 19,000 children born in 2000 and 2001, found that those who watched more than three hours of television, videos or DVDs a day had a higher chance of conduct problems, emotional symptoms and relationship problems by the time they were 7 than children who did not. The study, of a sample of 11,000 children, found that children who played video games — often age-appropriate games — for the same amount of time did not show any signs of negative behavioral changes by the same age.
Which brings us back to the dinner table with my niece and nephew. While they sat happily staring into those shiny screens, they were not engaged in any type of conversation, or staring off into space thinking, as my sister and I did as children when our parents were talking. And that is where the risks are apparent.
“Conversations with each other are the way children learn to have conversations with themselves, and learn how to be alone,” said Sherry Turkle, a professor of science, technology and society at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology, and author of the book “Alone Together: Why We Expect More From Technology and Less From Each Other.” “Learning about solitude and being alone is the bedrock of early development, and you don’t want your kids to miss out on that because you’re pacifying them with a device.”
Ms. Turkle has interviewed parents, teenagers and children about the use of gadgets during early development, and says she fears that children who do not learn real interactions, which often have flaws and imperfections, will come to know a world where perfect, shiny screens give them a false sense of intimacy without risk.
And they need to be able to think independently of a device. “They need to be able to explore their imagination. To be able to gather themselves and know who they are. So someday they can form a relationship with another person without a panic of being alone,” she said. “If you don’t teach your children to be alone, they’ll only know how to be lonely.”